The Weight of Words: Choosing Healing Over Hurt
We've all stood at that precipice, haven't we? That moment where the words hang heavy in the air, a response poised on the tip of our tongue, fueled by pain, anger, or a deep-seated wound. Someone has triggered us, or perhaps they've simply recounted a story that reignites a familiar ache. We take that deep, shuddering breath, ready to unleash the torrent of hurt we've carried.
"Standing up for yourself," we rationalize. "Not letting them get away with it." Even, dare I say, "self-care." I’ve been there. Recently, a family member shared news of another, a source of long-buried childhood trauma, and their newfound happiness. The opportunity to vent, to detail every scar and every lingering pain, was right there.
But then, a simple truth, a lesson learned from countless sources, resonated within me: "Hurt people hurt people. Healed people heal people."
It's a profound concept, deceptively simple. We are all conduits, vessels of energy. And the energy we carry, we inevitably share. Do we choose to perpetuate the cycle of pain, or do we break it? Do we "give it back," releasing the hurt from our bodies, only to send it spiraling outwards, potentially back to ourselves? Or do we choose healing?
In that moment, faced with the choice, I paused. I allowed myself to feel the pain, to acknowledge its presence. I alchemized it, transforming it into something different, something more. I took the time to reflect, to ask myself: what energy do I want to contribute? What outcome do I truly desire?
And I chose healing.
My response was one of encouragement and empowerment. I offered tools for change, not just for this individual, but for the ripple effect it would have on everyone around them. Their choice, their interpretation, was beyond my control. But my intention, the energy I sent forth, was pure.
Words, after all, are like arrows. Once released, they find their target, leaving a lasting mark. You can apologize, you can try to retract them, but the wound remains. The hole, the scar, will always be there.
So, the next time you find yourself at that precipice, poised to release your arrows, PAUSE. Take a moment to consider the impact you wish to leave.
Our external world is a reflection of our internal landscape. If we can cultivate healing within ourselves, if we can choose our responses with intention and compassion, we can transform the world around us. We have the power to choose how we feel, and in turn, how we impact others. Let's choose wisely.
As an ordinary, everyday human, Jerry is dedicated to overcoming any obstacle life throws his way. Through developing mental toughness and resilience, living intentionally, and accepting that failure is not an option, Jerry has navigated and overcome some very hard blows that life has thrown at him.
As a Certified Life Coach since 2021 Jerry has compassion for those who are battling difficulties and a passion for seeing people overcome those difficulties with confidence and grace.
His innate ability to find a way to win has taken him far, and he's turned that into a passion to help you do the same. With a commitment to growth and success, he will guide you through the troubled waters of life and find a way to win in your own journey. He will empower you to discover your own fire for life and stoke those coals until your inner fire envelopes the challenges in your way.
Emerge from the ashes and pick up that axe. Working with Jerry will lift you up and have you chopping down whatever is in your way.
